Hypnotherapy for Confidence

Our idea of normal is what they encounter in the first years of our life. Kids often express surprise when they discover that other kids have a different 'normal' to them. That realisation is often an important step in learning about individuality & separateness in human beings. Appreciating that other people do things in their own distinctive way can be a major idea to grasp when they first come into contact with it.

As human beings they can recognise that they are all in the process of developing & growing. Lots of people discuss the journey that's life, the route that they follow & where it takes us as they move through the years. Some people take a direct route, others prefer to meander, possibly getting lost for some time, taking detours. But they are all moving along the journey.

Confidence is something that kids naturally start out with. Kids will naturally assume that others need to play with them, talk to them, share their games. Over time they learn about restraint, lovely manners, being quieter from feedback from their parents, teachers & experiences with other people. If a child has to cope with an embarrassing or humiliating situation it will learn quickly not to risk repeating that experience.

In addition to this they often follow patterns that they've developed over the years. Behaviour, reactions, attitudes, habits are all formed from learning to cope as well as they can with the experiences that they've encountered & had to deal with, the people they've met, the situations that they've witnessed. As life progresses & they encounter similar experiences & react in the same, original way those patterns become more entrenched.

A child will do all it can to keep away from an disagreeable encounter being repeated. So it may shout, sob, pretend to be unwell to keep away from those situations, & if that fails to achieve the desired result it may learn to become quiet, shy, mute, invisible. A child is receptive to other people's moods, temperament, reactions. It is part of its innate survival strategy. Learning to be quiet to keep away from being noticed in an argumentative household, or to keep away from being picked on or bullied are all ingenious techniques to survive in a difficult surroundings, but they do not help a child become strong, vibrant & assured.

Learned behaviour patterns can stay with the child throughout its life, even if along the way lots of other lovely, successful events have occurred. Logic & common sense often struggle to override deep-rooted fears & emotions. Someone who has carried those feelings of dread & disgrace deep inside can't basically shake them off. as someone who is terrified of spiders can know logically that they are harmless, but if one appears on the carpet they will still find themselves standing on a seat, out of reach.

In later life people can find their confidence badly shaken by events that may be out of their control. Redundancy, divorce, difficult life experiences may cause stress that over time erodes a person's ability to bounce back & recover their natural sense of confidence.

Hypnotherapy is a powerful way of working with deep-seated fears & life experiences. It works with the original experience & allows it to be healed & updated. It does not erase or amnesify what has happened. In lieu it allows the experience to be recalled, but without the negative responses & reactions being triggered. It is also an effective way of recharging a person's batteries & helping them cope better with life.

Susan Leigh is a Counsellor & Hypnotherapist who works with
- stressed individuals to promote confidence & self belief,
- couples in crisis to help improve communications & understanding
- with business clients to help support the health & motivation levels of individuals & teams

Hypnosis or trance is a natural everyday experience that everybody is familiar with. Driving the automobile along a familiar route, being in a boring lecture or meeting, wandering around the supermarket are all trance-inductive experiences. They are miles away, on auto-pilot, listening but not hearing what has been said, but they can return to full awareness if our name is mentioned or they recognise a familiar landmark on our journey. That's a lovely state of relaxation or trance for valuable hypnotherapy work to be undertaken. Healing elderly, undesirable patterns & allowing positive suggestions to improve confidence & feel better & more balanced as a result.

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